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Wednesday, April 12, 2017
Review 13 REASONS WHY - Was Suicide Her Only Option?
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PLEASE NOTE: this
contains spoilers of the Netflix series, 13
Reasons Why based upon the novel of the same name by Jay Asher.
It’s hard for me
to put into words how this series made me feel. I raised two boys who are now
in their twenties, but, still have my 17 year old daughter at home. My sons
really didn’t experience bullying. However, my daughter is another story. Even
though she’d been at the same school since late Kindergarten, she was anointed
an outcast. Some of the things that happened made me so angry, I remember once
jumping out of my car and screaming at one boy involved in one incident. I
didn’t give a shit if his parents saw me or not. Through many years and many
tears, she grew older. Her sophomore year, a popular kid asked her to
homecoming dance. She found out a few days later it was only a joke…yes, A
JOKE. Somehow, he thought it was funny to ask her and then take it back. #totaldouche
schools because I moved to a new town and although reticent at first, she’s
happier here. She’s a junior in high school this year, and feeling more at ease
in this new school environment. I must admit her trust levels remain extremely
guarded because of everything she experienced. The early episodes of 13 made me
occasionally cringe, and actually stop watching, because it vaguely reminded me
of what she went through. However, I’d start again, anxious to see how the
story ended for the other characters involved. I mean, would ANY of them adopt
some moral code and somber acceptance of how they contributed to someone else’s
I immediately felt
protective of Hannah
Baker, and wished this would end differently. I wanted to let her know
those horrible times would eventually be nothing more than a bad memory, and
she would find happier days. But, this series was not geared toward saving her,
we know she will eventually die by her own hand.
I got extremely
frustrated at how many times Clay Jensen
stopped listening to the tapes and demand his friend, Tony, tell
him what happened. JUST LISTEN! I wanted to scream at him. I felt like I was
held hostage in DFW traffic, road rage translated to viewer rage. Later, when I
really thought about his hesitance, I was reminded of someone I know. This
person would drag their feet, hide, or whatever it took to avoid anything
unpleasant- news, family, change, etc. I could never understand it. I’m the
type to face it head on, dive in, get it OVER with. Realizing not everyone is
like me, I took a step back and accepted Clay had to listen in his own time,
stopping at his own required intervals.
I absolutely don’t
understand why eventually Tony answers, “yes”, when Clay asks him for the
hundredth time if he was actually the ONE that killed Hannah. When I watched
the next episode, yes, I see where Clay and Hannah have an argument, but,
nothing says it was all Clay’s fault. In fact, Hannah is raped after her
argument with Clay, and she visits a very unhelpful Mr. Porter. When Tony
answered that question in the affirmative, I believe he misled Clay, causing
cruel stress. Hannah does reveal Clay is in those tapes, but, she also explains
Clay doesn’t really fit in with those tyrants.
During the story,
I had to admit I kept wondering how this girl, Hannah, ended up in the middle
of some crappy and messed up situations. For some reason, bad luck followed her
like she’d broken mirrors for months straight. It wasn’t always because she
made bad choices, she honestly tried to help folks sometimes. She kept
returning to the same crew who jilted her, used her, and disregarded her. This
is how strong the will to be liked can be for an outsider. Popular folks won’t understand the daily struggle to be
heard, noticed, or simply acknowledged. The unseen become a fire extinguisher
on the wall- always there, yet, always ignored.
I have complaints
about what I consider “plot holes”. For instance, when Marcus plants marijuana
in Clay’s backpack, the school administration assumes it’s Clay’s personal
stash for obvious reasons. But, why didn’t he demand fingerprints on the bag,
or a drug test to prove his innocence. His mother is an attorney, and she didn’t demand this? I’m at a loss on this
Hannah is smart,
and savvy, coming to some serious conclusions along her horribly rocky road. She
understands these people, and their desire to hide their secrets. So, I ask
this question, in the end, how come she stayed in the hot tub alone with Bryce, the rapist she so dreads? Why in the hell would she
actually do that? When the
scriptwriters left her in the hot tub, they greatly diminished their
I dislike how the
“villains” of this story seem to get away with all their evil doings- Especially
Bryce. This whole troupe gets away scot free without concern. Even when Sherri
calls 911 to report her involvement with the stop sign, we don’t actually see what she faces as a result. Further,
when Jeff died as a result of the missing stop sign, wouldn’t the coroner have
done a blood alcohol test as part of the autopsy? If Jeff wasn’t intoxicated,
as Clay defends, the blood test would clear him as not being a drunk driver.
Jeff’s parents should’ve demanded such tests and explanations.
The series spent
so much time building up what all of these bullies did- how come we, the
viewers, don’t receive the satisfaction of at least some received consequence?
The reality is, some of them will get away with everything but, hopefully, some
would receive a wakeup call to their conscience. But, damn, some of these folks
deserve some serious repercussions. We spend the entire 13 episodes watching
these kids rip Hannah apart, and then….nothing.
Even at the end,
Jessica was more angry at her boyfriend, Justin, than Bryce. I get it…I really
do. The guy proclaiming to love you and supposedly protect you lets some
monster rape you. But, where is the anger toward Bryce? Again, I see the whole
crew protecting this rapist instead of throwing him off the island.
receive the audio files at long last, and we get nothing about their response?
We follow every heartbreaking step they make, why do we not see how this file
affects them? Although certainly not bringing her back, will they confront Mr.
Porter, the counselor, who had a final chance to show Hannah life was worth
living? What is the outcome for Mr. Porter? Will he continue to believe he had
NO idea she was contemplating suicide? Or, will the administration keep
protecting him and the popular assholes who run the school?
I appreciate the
tragic, painstaking scene showing Hannah actually taking the razor blade to her
wrists. I had to turn away and couldn’t watch the entire act. Suicide is not
glamorous, and shouldn’t be made to appear like some glittery trip into the
twilight. Suicide is also final, a
fact not always really grasped by young people. Adolescents sometimes want their
act of self-harm to truly be their cry for help, and they don’t necessarily
mean to die, like for real. Death in
movies makes it seem there can be a do-over, a chance to get it right. But,
when someone engages in an act to end their life, it just might END their life,
not be a desire for help. Those pills, rope, blades, or a gun can- and will-
bring mortal harm to a human body. I don’t mean this as throwing shade on a
young person’s understanding, I want this to be made crystal clear.
Finally, we have
Alex the gunshot “victim”. Did he pull the trigger himself, or who actually
committed the deed? How does this even fit into the story? Each of the first 12
episodes invested much time in developing the characters, their behaviors, the
interactions…I felt like episode 13 threw everything together and ended
abruptly without sufficient explanation for the huge storylines created.
Where did Hannah
mail the other set of tapes??
Why did she pick Tony to pass the tapes??
I want to read the
book, as a comparison between the two.